It just keeps getting worse
December 14th, 2008Although dad has no contact with our daughters these days the damage he did all those years ago lingers on.
We’ve now had confirmation that our daughter committed suicide because of what dad did. She’d shared much more information with her boyfriend of many years than she ever had with anyone else. She refused to go to counselling and said she wouldn’t press charges. How I wish she did.
Dad raped her as a child on more than one occasion but the police can do nothing because the information given by us, or her boyfriend is considered ‘hearsay’. They need a statement from someone who has been affected by my father so they can question him and charge him, if considered appropriate to do so. What the ???  Our daughter dies because of what he did to her all those years ago and we can do nothing to get him charged? Our only hope is if one of our other daughters will agree to speak up or if another child comes forward as he’s sure to have done this to others too. I’ve heard it said they don’t stop, they just keep committing this awful crime.
I’ve since discovered that dad is on Facebook and I have contacted the authorities there to advise them as I can’t see his connections and I have no idea if he’s connected with children or not.
To me, the father I grew up with and loved died many years ago and was replaced with this monster. I didn’t even get to say goodbye to him or grieve his death but instead woke up one day to find out he’s been replaced by someone I don’t know.
Currently I’m hoping to find a parent lobby group in Australia that we can join. There needs to be something done to those pedophiles who escape the system and the punishment they deserve because their actions go undetected for so long and because many are so unwilling to come forward and make statements later in their adult years. What justice is there for parents of these victims?
How I wish we knew what had taken place whilst our girls were still underage so, as parents, we were in a position to do something about it. Now, as adults, we have to wait for them to come forward and this is why I write anonymously so I don’t expose the anguish, and hurt our girls have suffered in silence until they themselves are ready to go public.
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